If you are experiencing a break up in your life, you've just joined a very large club. Nearly 7 of every 10 relationships will experience a break up and their broken hearts will eventually mend.
But the how-do-I-get-it-all-back-together part is not intuitive.Most of us need help. Let's look at the series of phases you'll most likely experience after the break up of your relationship.
First comes the question of whether or not you've broken up with your true love. Or your situation could be like dear Bella of New Moon, and you'll be too conflicted to know which way to turn. It is very likely that you'll want your ex back. Missing an ex is most often part of the experience of a break up.
There is no reason to go into denial about wanting your ex back. Nearly 85% of all people who experience a break up try to find a way to get their ex back. On the brighter side of the relationship break up issue are the statistics.
It is not a well known bit of information, however, nearly 95% of bad break ups can potentially be mended. Many times it just takes the right strategy to help you get your ex back into your arms.
Second comes the Sherlock Holmes strategy. Namely, focus your thoughts on what happened. Try to uncover all the reasons that you can to figure out what led to your break up. You'll find it very helpful to know all the possible issues that got between you and the love of your life. This could have been a habit or a pattern of behavior or something your ex became inflexible about.
If you can get a hunch or think about the details that happened in your relationship to drive you apart, you'll well on your way to mending your break up.
Third in the Getting My Ex Back strategies is to: Act As Though You Are Confident and Self Sufficient. Many times after a break up, one of the partners will beg and plead for their ex to take them back. It's as though they cannot handle day to day functions without the ex back in their life.
Behaving with confidence, going about with your normal routine, or getting involved with brand new activities, goes a long way toward bringing your ex back. Naturally, we're not looking to plant seeds of suspicion.
Transforming an ex into a jealous ex lover is not the way to win your ex back into your arms. It is always a good idea to speak only complementary things about your ex when you're in conversations with mutual friends. This will make your friends more comfortable and as a bonus, the word will get back to your ex.
The powerful secret of these strategies is your ex will get the message that there is no unstable behavior or hatred to be concerned about. You'll also want to avoid acting too needy or tearful or using any of the negative strategies that can ruin your chances for getting the ex back during the post break up period.
Should your ex start seeing other people, just up the energy of your strategies. What this means is to expand your range of activities. Take up golfing, or Judo, or one of the hot forms of Yoga. Nothing heats up an ex more than to see a hot new body and attitude on an ex partner. It is magic!
Please consider these tips seriously. There is nothing more frustrating than to look back and realize that had you worked just a little harder to get your ex back, you would have been successful. It is more than possible to get your ex back in a few weeks.
It takes a serious attitude and focus and commitment. Your relationship can work, regardless of what led to the break up.
Just take it one step at a time and check your results. Then take another step and stay focused.
Alex Rich PhD, is a personal development and relationship coach with more than 15 years of experience. The videos and tips from his blogs have helped hundreds win their ex back in record time.
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